my body? - it´s mine! // dear body - i´m sorry! // s**uality - wounded by domestic violence // s**ual
a**ault // i am plagued by the shame of having been treated like worthless and c*** // shame // disgrace/
abasement // was it all my fault? - did I deserve it? // felt like I had shattered into a million pieces! // in the
end, all what stays is the bitter feeling of unconsciousness, silence and passivity instead of fury and hate //
scream when it hurts 'cause I won´t suffer in silence // 'cause I refuse to die // by enunciating it - it´s getting
real! // but there´s no life in silence and I refuse to die // it´s in every face I look, everything I wear, everything
I do // intensity // the pain will always be with me! // signifying pain // rage and despair // scream it all out // let
pressure off // scream it all out and walk away with something positive // let the signifying pain cause rage
and despair to let the pressure off // to scream it all out and leave with some awareness! // no more denying!
s**ual violence has many froms of appearances. It often starts with daily s**ual overtures and verbal
harassment, with s**istic language and misogynic jokes. Unfortunately it´s often not defined as violence,
because it happens so often, that it seems to be normal. Violence starts (in this point), where people of
different gender-identities feel restricted in their personal freedom, when they have to avoid certain places,
paths or situations for not being insulted, harassed or threatened.
The person affected by s**ual violence could be everybody - regardless of age, look or social status.
Statistically more people who define themselves as female are affected. l****** women, migrants and
women with disabilities are not only discriminated by being a woman, but also because of nationality, s**ual
orientation and handicaps. In the majority of cases of s**ual violence against people who define themselves
as men, the aggressor is also male.
Perpetrators are rarely people you don´t know. In most cases they are part of your social frames of
reference: friends, partners, husbands, fathers, brothers, colleagues, peers...
Violation happens there, where people should feel free and safe, for example at home! This simply indicates,
that the reason for s**ual a**ault is not (just) s**uality but more often it's power and the abuse of power.The
self-determination of one´s body gets anulled by another person.
Against all basic principles, based on consent („Zustimmungsprinzip") and the power of self definition
(„Definitionsmacht"), s**ual desire and s**uality get functionalized to humiliate, to abase and to oppress
people. Often the affected people feel abased as an object, considering their own body as valueless,
disposable and are in most parts heavily traumatized.
But the barrier to open themselves and their experiences to an intimate and reliable person is still very high.
Not rarely the reaction of others is silent concernment, embarrassing compassion or even in incapable
defence - often an emancipatory exposure to the effects of s**ual a**ault is missing. All what stays is the
daily struggle with this experience.
This is a big „f*** you" to a patriarchal society that tells us to shut up, when it comes to rape!
a**ault // i am plagued by the shame of having been treated like worthless and c*** // shame // disgrace/
abasement // was it all my fault? - did I deserve it? // felt like I had shattered into a million pieces! // in the
end, all what stays is the bitter feeling of unconsciousness, silence and passivity instead of fury and hate //
scream when it hurts 'cause I won´t suffer in silence // 'cause I refuse to die // by enunciating it - it´s getting
real! // but there´s no life in silence and I refuse to die // it´s in every face I look, everything I wear, everything
I do // intensity // the pain will always be with me! // signifying pain // rage and despair // scream it all out // let
pressure off // scream it all out and walk away with something positive // let the signifying pain cause rage
and despair to let the pressure off // to scream it all out and leave with some awareness! // no more denying!
s**ual violence has many froms of appearances. It often starts with daily s**ual overtures and verbal
harassment, with s**istic language and misogynic jokes. Unfortunately it´s often not defined as violence,
because it happens so often, that it seems to be normal. Violence starts (in this point), where people of
different gender-identities feel restricted in their personal freedom, when they have to avoid certain places,
paths or situations for not being insulted, harassed or threatened.
The person affected by s**ual violence could be everybody - regardless of age, look or social status.
Statistically more people who define themselves as female are affected. l****** women, migrants and
women with disabilities are not only discriminated by being a woman, but also because of nationality, s**ual
orientation and handicaps. In the majority of cases of s**ual violence against people who define themselves
as men, the aggressor is also male.
Perpetrators are rarely people you don´t know. In most cases they are part of your social frames of
reference: friends, partners, husbands, fathers, brothers, colleagues, peers...
Violation happens there, where people should feel free and safe, for example at home! This simply indicates,
that the reason for s**ual a**ault is not (just) s**uality but more often it's power and the abuse of power.The
self-determination of one´s body gets anulled by another person.
Against all basic principles, based on consent („Zustimmungsprinzip") and the power of self definition
(„Definitionsmacht"), s**ual desire and s**uality get functionalized to humiliate, to abase and to oppress
people. Often the affected people feel abased as an object, considering their own body as valueless,
disposable and are in most parts heavily traumatized.
But the barrier to open themselves and their experiences to an intimate and reliable person is still very high.
Not rarely the reaction of others is silent concernment, embarrassing compassion or even in incapable
defence - often an emancipatory exposure to the effects of s**ual a**ault is missing. All what stays is the
daily struggle with this experience.
This is a big „f*** you" to a patriarchal society that tells us to shut up, when it comes to rape!